In the beginning text, Roxane Gay notifies us that she is filled with contradictions. As you read further into her collection, you will realize how true that statement is. Her need to warn us that everything she says may not add up is a trigger warning — a concept she plainly despises because “life, apparently, requires a trigger warning.”

Although she admits to being a mess and a “bad feminist”, I enjoyed reading this collection because it’s personal and very human. She doesn’t pretend to know all the answers and, sometimes, she doesn’t even know what it is she is feeling. Which is clear. It is a good representation of a woman living in the world and how she gathers herself to navigate through it. We are made aware of her joys, pains, frustrations and insecurities. It felt, to me, as if she held nothing back. Which, as the reader, I genuinely appreciated.